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When I was a little girl, my mother use to read to us before we went to bed. I especially loved the fairy tales. My favorite was Rapunzel. It was about a girl with long hair who was locked up in a tower by an evil witch and visited by a prince who climbs the tower using her hair.
Little did I know that this same story in a weird way is my story. The girl was isolated from family and friends in a locked tower that was not accessible to anyone but the witch, or so she thought. That in itself is one of the tactics that an abuser uses to take control over their victim. The assumed control. I moved to Maryland from New York not knowing anyone. Although my family was just 4 hours away, how many of you know that 4 hours may as well be a whole new continent. I felt as if I was Rapunzel, locked in an unbearable life waiting to be rescued.
The pictures above represent my bondage and my freedom. Sometimes we get things twisted. Once I left my abusive relationship/marriage, I started to grow dreadlocks. I was determined to grow them for 15 years that would represent the 15 years of abuse I endured. Then a giant lightbulb went off in my head, actually it was God, Why are you still acting like you are in captivity? I have set you free from the abuse and you do not need to keep on letting it take control over you. So December 31, 2012, after 11 years of growing my locks, my friend cut all of my locks off while I sipped on a glass of wine. I felt WONDERFUL. My head was lighter my hair color was lighter (LOL) and I felt like a princess.
Yes Rapunzel's hair was cut off in the end due to the evil witch's discovery of the prince's visits. Rapunzel was set loose in the desert and the prince was blinded by trickery of the witch. But in the end, the hair was not a factor in her happiness. It was finding the peace and love for herself. Both Rapunzel and the prince found each other and as in all fairy tales, they lived happily ever after.
I tell you this little snippet of my life so you can regain control over your life. Don't let someone else wreak havoc over your life because of their insecurities. You are more than a conqueror.
I Corinthians 13:6 states "Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth."
Little did I know that this same story in a weird way is my story. The girl was isolated from family and friends in a locked tower that was not accessible to anyone but the witch, or so she thought. That in itself is one of the tactics that an abuser uses to take control over their victim. The assumed control. I moved to Maryland from New York not knowing anyone. Although my family was just 4 hours away, how many of you know that 4 hours may as well be a whole new continent. I felt as if I was Rapunzel, locked in an unbearable life waiting to be rescued.
The pictures above represent my bondage and my freedom. Sometimes we get things twisted. Once I left my abusive relationship/marriage, I started to grow dreadlocks. I was determined to grow them for 15 years that would represent the 15 years of abuse I endured. Then a giant lightbulb went off in my head, actually it was God, Why are you still acting like you are in captivity? I have set you free from the abuse and you do not need to keep on letting it take control over you. So December 31, 2012, after 11 years of growing my locks, my friend cut all of my locks off while I sipped on a glass of wine. I felt WONDERFUL. My head was lighter my hair color was lighter (LOL) and I felt like a princess.
Yes Rapunzel's hair was cut off in the end due to the evil witch's discovery of the prince's visits. Rapunzel was set loose in the desert and the prince was blinded by trickery of the witch. But in the end, the hair was not a factor in her happiness. It was finding the peace and love for herself. Both Rapunzel and the prince found each other and as in all fairy tales, they lived happily ever after.
I tell you this little snippet of my life so you can regain control over your life. Don't let someone else wreak havoc over your life because of their insecurities. You are more than a conqueror.
I Corinthians 13:6 states "Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth."
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